May 2006


Many of our friends and family are very curious about when we will be receiving a referral for our beautiful new baby girl. Our only answer is, “We don’t know.” When our dossier was sent over to China, the wait time was supposed to be about 6-7 months. That would mean that we should have received a referral sometime in either January or February, with us traveling in either March or April. And if you haven’t noticed by now, we still do not have our referral. There are many reasons for this; the two primary being that there are now many children being adopted domestically in China, and the amount of people trying to adopt internationally has risen drastically over the past few years. These two factors have led to an increased wait time for the families who want to start or expand their families through adoption from China. To help understand what has happened over the last year with the referral times, click here for a very thorough chart that a fellow July 2005 adoptive parent has created. The chart shows not only how many days worth of dossiers have been referred each month, but also provides a projection for when we can possibly receive a referral depending on the number of days that are referred each month. Keep in mind when looking at this chart that our LID (log-in-date) is July 26, 2005.

Today I arrived home to so many wonderful things that I don’t even know where to start…but I will try.

Travis’ mom sent us a package with some great items: lighthouses from his grandmother Schuler (for those who don’t know, lighthouses are very important to us), a few books for Travis & I and the baby, some Baily winery wine, and some more fabric squares for the baby’s quilt. The squares were submitted by Trav’s parents, Bruce and Patty, as well as our nephew, Dorien Reign. Each fabric square and wish are all unique, and will make perfect additions to the quilt. They also help to describe little bits about the personalities of the people who sent them.

Bailey received a package from her sister Heidi. She sent a Care Package to bring smiles to the Kowalskis, as well as positive wishes for a speedy referral. Three gifts were included in the Care Package: an adorable, plush, ladybug book for the baby, a fun little book called “Bailey,” and finally a wish doll. Bailey was brought to tears by the generosity of her sister. The timing of the gifts was perfect since the slow down of referrals has left us feeling rather gloomy lately.

Lastly, Bailey’s mom sent Bailey a Mother’s Day card. When our dossier was sent to China, we were under the impression that we would have already traveled to China meet our little one by May, thus making this my first Mother’s Day. Well, as we all know, things have slowed down to a crawl, and Bailey is again childless on another Mother’s Day. The card was just what was needed to bring a much needed smile to her face. Thanks so much mom. And, thanks so much to all of our family for all of the great things that arrived at our door today.

We opened the mailbox today to find a beautiful fabric square and wish from a Franz family cousin. Dick and Jo Wykoff are relatives on Bailey’s mother’s side. The fabric they sent is gorgeous, with children holding hands around the world. Since we are American parents adopting a baby girl from China, this fabric is very special to us. It sort of reminds us of the song, “He’s got the whole world in His hands.” Thank you so much Dick and Jo. Your contribution made mom Franz (Judi) very happy. It means a lot to her that her family is represented in the quilt.

One of the secretaries who works at Bailey’s school has been working on getting a fabric square and wish for many weeks. Every single day, Sharon would tell Bailey, “I am working on it,” to which Bailey would reply, “Don’t worry, we still have time!” This daily dialogue let to some badgering here and there, and many laughs along the way. So, today when Sharon said, “Guess what? I have the square!” Bailey was very surprised to say the least. Now who am I going to harrass? Thanks Sharon, this has been fun!

Travis finally brought home some fabric squares and wishes from some SDSMT co-workers today. Keep in mind though that some of these squares have been sitting on his desk at work for a while now, so we do not have a definite date of when they arrived. So, the unofficial date is today! Thanks everyone, we greatly appreciate your contributions. (Geez Trav, get it in gear next time!).

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